It’s not uncommon for us to have deep grief that we are not even aware of. We all experience death and loss and sometimes we think we’ve healed our grief, but the truth is there can be deep aspects of the grief that are still stuck within us.
This can occur when we had a deep, loving connection with the person who died or even a difficult relationship with the person who died, or a sudden death. For example, if there was conflict, addiction, abuse or other difficulties in the relationship we often experience very “mixed” emotions around the death. We don’t know how to grieve the death of someone who was difficult in life and caused us pain. Conversely, the death of someone with whom we had a deeply loving relationship is very challenging to heal from.
As well, when people die in unusual circumstances it can leave us with so many unanswered questions, especially if someone was the victim of a crime, it adds layers to the grieving process because it’s just so much to process.
The truth of all deaths is that the grieving process is very complex and very often we don’t have the tools to get to the bottom of the grief and release the deepest layers of the sadness and loss whatever they may look like.
All unresolved grief holds us back in life in many ways and it drains our life force energy.
A Mediumship reading is about healing both sides by establishing a good and accurate connection between the Soul of the deceased and the client. The deceased often has profound messages that the “sitter” or client needs to hear to help them move forward past their grief and to help them in their life in many ways. The client is experiencing grief and it can look different for everyone but that grief whether it is on the surface or deep begins to clear as messages are relayed.
It’s not uncommon to see portions of the clients Soul blueprint being restored as the grief is released from deep levels and aspects of the client. This is enormously important for those who are feeling unsure in life about what their path truly is. The truth of their true nature is often trapped under deep layers of grief.
Everything that comes through in a reading is always exactly what the Soul of the deceased and the living both need for healing and closure, and so that they can both move forward. But closure, is never closure, the love is eternal, it’s the closure of the pain of grief and loss that is achieved and where tremendous relief resides.
I love this poem by Henry Scott Holland and I have given it to many people. I think it beautifully sums up the relationship and connection we have with our deceased loved ones. They are truly always with us.
“Death is nothing at all. It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by the old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is this death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner. All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before. How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!”
Henry Scott Holland, 1847 – 1918 was Regius Professor of Divinity at the University of Oxford. He was also a Canon of Christ Church, Oxford.